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Feelings in Motion
Introduction

Join me for this short introduction to my series of 4 ‘Feelings in Motion’ videos, helping you to identify and manage difficult emotions.

Feelings in Motion
Episode 1: Anger

Welcome to this first of four short videos from A Single Step, helping you to recognise and manage your difficult emotions. Today’s video focuses on anger. Check out our next video which will explore anxiety.

Feelings in Motion
Episode 2: Anxiety

Welcome to this second of four short videos from A Single Step, helping you to recognise and manage your difficult emotions. Today’s video focuses on anxiety. Check out our next video which will explore depression.

Feelings in Motion
Episode 3: Depression

Welcome to this third of four short videos from A Single Step, helping you to recognise and manage your difficult emotions. Today is all about depression and hopelessness. Check out our final video which will explore sadness.

Feelings in Motion Episode 4: Sadness

Welcome to the fourth and final short video in my ‘Feelings in Motion’ series, helping you to recognise and manage difficult feelings. In this video, the focus is Sadness and Grief.

Establishing Healthy Boundaries

Establishing healthy boundaries in our relationships with each other and with our own emotional needs begins with recognising when we are emotionally out of balance. This infographic guides us to identify and communicate our core emotional needs as well as follow through with consistent actions.

Courageous Conversations for Leaders

This resource outlines the established concepts of ‘calling out’ and ‘calling in’, to support team members to interrupt behaviours and language that threaten psychological safety in the team or the workplace at large.

Providing Feedback with SBI

The well-establish framework of SBI (Situation, behaviour, Impact) offers a simple but powerful scaffold to support team members to give and receive feedback, both developmental and appreciative.

Emotional Connection Exercise for Couples

Over time, and through the transitions and general busyness of life, the emotional connection in our primary relationship can decrease if not attended to. Sometimes, because of attachment trauma from the past, one or both of you may never have felt able to fully connect emotionally with yourselves or each other. This exercise will help you, through small, incremental…

Time Out for Couples in Conflict

Most of us are familiar with the use of ‘Time-Out’ for children, but this amended version can also be an invaluable circuit-breaker for regulating high emotions in our adult relationship conflict. Download this resource to develop your own personalised Time-Out Plan.

The 9 Rs of Relationship Conflict First Aid

Developed by A Single Step’s Chris Pye, over many years of clinical practice, the 9 Rs is an invaluable checklist of key microskills, vital in the management of relationship conflict. Which of the 9 Rs are most impacting your relationships? Download this resource and keep it somewhere visible, for easy reference.

Mining for Inner Resources

When we encounter stressful or distressing experiences or periods in our lives, we can easily be knocked off balance. We can forget that we actually possess a range of skills and inner resources that we have collected through our lives. When we take time to reconnect with these, we also reconnect with our sense of…

Identify your Core Values

Our values and world view are inherited from the families, communities and cultures in which we were raised. In adulthood, pausing to consider what has changed and what values we want to intentionally carry forward can be a useful process in our personal development. This worksheet will show you how you can do that. 

A Single Step DASS 21

The Depression, Anxiety and Stress Scale 21 (DASS-21) is a set of three self-report scales designed to measure the emotional states of depression, anxiety and stress. It can be a useful tool for checking how we are travelling and at A Single Step we use this resource to measure the positive impacts of our individual counselling services. 

Trauma informed Care

The Window of Tolerance

Adapted from the concept developed by Dan Siegel in 1999, this infographic supports the understanding that we can each take proactive and practical steps to maintain optimal levels of activation of our nervous system, towards more functional day to day living and more fulfilling relationships. 

3 Domains of Trauma Informed Care

Drawing on the evidence-base of peak bodies, SAMHSA and TICIRC, as well as the principles of anti-oppressive practice, this infographic outlines three key domains of a trauma-informed approach in the workplace, to support strategic and ongoing implementation.

Jug & Bowl of Workplace Trauma 

Building a trauma informed workplace starts with acknowledging the high levels of trauma and emotional distress brought to the helping professions by both clients and employees. By making the implicit explicit, we can begin to develop the appropriate structures of support.

The Autonomic Nervous System

Our body’s Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) works behind the scenes, scanning our environment for both danger and safety. Orchestrated by the brain and triggered by our sensory perceptions, it readies our body for fight, flight or freeze, but also for safety and comfort. This infographic provides a broad overview of some of its key functions.  

Leadership Development

3 Conversations

To work confidently and competently across difference, we must take the time to examine our own family of origin, community and cultural experiences, and the messages they conveyed to us. This enables us to understand our cultural biases and privileges, and supports greater cultural humility. This, in turn, bolsters our capacity to truly ‘be with’…

B.R.A.C.S.E.

A Single Step’s simple and elegant ‘BRACSE’ framework supports team members and staff members to safely navigate the difficult workplace conversations that need to be had. ‘Brace’ means to prepare for an impending challenge. When we take time to prepare, we are better equipped to manage conflict effectively. The ‘SBI’ and ‘Call-out’ concepts referred to…

Fostering Inclusion in your Workplace – Practical Steps

This checklist is a companion to A Single Step’s ‘Fostering Inclusion’ workshop. We hope it will help you take the next practical steps towards building and maintaining a more inclusive workplace. 

Attachment Styles for Leaders

Since the groundbreaking work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1960s, Attachment Theory has helped us understand the infant and childhood origins of much of our adult behaviours in close relationships. This infographic outlines the 4 central Attachment Styles, along with the infant or childhood experience that gave rise to them and the…

5 Keys of Leadership

Informed by a variety of sources, and many years of professional experience, Chris Pye shares his 5 Keys of Leadership in this infographic that guides teams to optimal performance

5 Keys of Leadership Worksheet

Building on his 5 Keys of Leadership framework, Chris Pye shares this invaluable tool for helping team members to identify the behaviours they will commit to, across the 5 key domains.

Purpose, Values, Goals & Skills Worksheet

This simple and effective worksheet is a central reference point for teams that want to meet on the same page, to take clear and intentional steps forward together

Capability Maturity Model

Using the established ‘Capability Maturity Model’ framework, this infographic offers a useful scaffold for the implementation of inclusion and trauma-informed practice strategies in the workplace.

3 Domains of Trauma Informed Care

Drawing on the evidence-base of peak bodies, SAMHSA and TICIRC, as well as the principles of anti-oppressive practice, this infographic outlines three key domains of a trauma-informed approach in the workplace, to support strategic and ongoing implementation.

Providing Feedback with SBI

Providing feedback to a colleague, a manager or a report can be stressful for both parties. The well-established SBI (situation, behaviour, impact) model provides the scaffolding needed to reduce anxiety and facilitate a constructive conversation, towards positive change.

Courageous Conversations

Many of those working in teams avoid conflict, for fear of making a situation worse. But building a culture of ‘Courageous Conversations’ is essential for any team wanting to create an inclusive and psychologically safe working environment. This worksheet provides valuable guidelines for supporting the initiation of a conversation that you may need to have with…

Your Next Step

You’ve been through so much in your relationship. And the fact that you are here tells me that you believe there is still plenty to fight for. It tells me you have hope and you see a positive future. Couples Coaching could be the answer.

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