Relationship Conflict Coaching
Relationship coaching does not aim to eradicate all conflict. Conflict is a natural part of all relationships and can be an opportunity for deepening our connection. But relationships get stuck when they are hijacked by:
- Insecurities that arise out of early attachment issues
- Beliefs or values that are no longer helpful
- Harmful and destructive language and behaviour
When we feel our needs are not being met by our partner, in the way we expect or desire, it can cause anxiety, frustration, and resentment.
It's Hard To Know Where To Turn
There’s no shortage of people weighing in with helpful advice – parents, pastors, sanctimonious siblings – along with self help books and personal development courses, all claiming to solve your relationship problems. It can be confusing, overwhelming and emotionally draining.
How do you make the right choice to get your relationship back on track?
Before we go there, let me share a bit about me.
Chris Pye
For the past 20 years I’ve been helping partners build stronger relationships, by identifying the thoughts, feelings and physical sensations that fuel their conflict and restructuring the emotions, language and behaviours that support a happier, healthy way forward.
With a wealth of experience in both coaching and counselling, I bring together the best of both worlds, drawing on such powerful modalities as Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Somatic Psychotherapy, and Internal Family Systems Therapy.
My commitment is to ensure that you notice real, positive change in your relationship after just a few sessions, setting you on a path of greater harmony and connectedness, well into the future.
I can make this commitment to you because I have witnessed, time after time, the power of providing a safe supporting space and guiding partners to turn back to one another, and to their relationships, and begin rebuilding their emotional connection.
I call it the ‘low and slow’ approach – going beneath the ‘he said, she did’ content to the emotional experience beneath. It is there that we can then take the time to truly understand what is going on and how it connects with our relationship and historical attachment wounds.
9 Signs of Relationship Dysfunction
It’s important to recognise signs of dysfunction and emotional disconnection in our intimate partner relationship/s, before it’s too late. Here are some of the most common:
- You bury your feelings and avoid conflict, convinced it won't go well
- You fight about the same issues, getting no closer to resolution
- Your physical and emotional intimacy have dwindled
- You spend more time with family or friends, to avoid each other
- Your conversations are minimal and you feel you have little in common
- Your conflicts quickly descend into criticism, blame and defensiveness
- You're losing respect for one another, as resentment grows
- Misunderstandings increase, as neither of you truly listen to the other
- Your relationship no longer feels like a place of comfort and nurture
If you identified with any of the 9 signs above, then I am confident I can help you.
Over the years, working with relationships in conflict, I’ve learnt that to get to the deeper conversations about what is fuelling relationship problems, we first need to rebuild a safe, supportive container for healthy communication. That’s why I created The 9 R’s of Relationship Conflict First Aid .
These are easily recognised and memorable actions that you can take to improve your relationships and they provide a valuable aid for rebuilding trust and a sense of emotional safety in our intimate partner relationship/s. You can download my FREE 9 Rs infographic, for easy reference.
At A Single Step, I draw on highly successful evidence-based frameworks, such as Emotionally-Focused Therapy, to provide this simple but powerful model, so you can get straight to doing what works.
It's About Taking The Next Step
You know your relationship is suffering, but it’s not from want of trying on your part. You’ve probably tried strategies such as:
- Consuming self-help books and podcasts
- Seeking help from family and friends
- Trying to confront the stalemate on your own
- And maybe you've even tried counselling or relationships coaching
When nothing has worked, it’s easy to conclude that your relationship problems are here to stay, and you may as well stop trying. But there may be another way.
Relationship Conflict Coaching
Relationship Conflict Coaching helps you identify the negative conflict patterns in your relationship and take concrete steps towards transforming them. It allows you to feel truly seen and heard by your partner so that you can let go of constantly fighting for your emotional experience to be acknowledged.
It takes an experienced third party to create the safe container needed for you to find the emotional courage to be vulnerable. With my support you can begin to restructure relationship conflict, towards harmony and connectedness.
How Does Relationship Coaching Work?
- We identify the triggers that lead to conflict, and the negative intertactional patterns that keep you both stuck.
- We create a safe supportive space to share the difficult feelings that underpin the conflict, and their historical attachment origins
- We support you to feel truly seen and heard by one another, so that you can begin to transform destructive conflict into opportunities for deeper engagement
Registered Clinical Counsellor
Chris Pye from A Single Step is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Accredited Supervisor with the Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA).
PACFA is a leading national peak body for the counselling and psychotherapy profession. Practising members of PACFA are listed on PACFA’s National Register. Registrants have demonstrated an approved level of training, experience and competence, complying with PACFA’s ethical standards and meeting PACFA’s Training Standards, which are the highest for the profession in Australia.
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What you get:
- A dedicated safe space, for the courageous conversations you need to have.
- Masterful coaching and counselling tailored to your relationship needs.
- Powerful strategies to help you get your relationships back on track.
- Useful tools and exercises that value-add to your coaching and counselling sessions.
Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.
Your Next Step
You’ve been through so much in your relationship.
And the fact that you are here tells me that you believe there is still something to fight for. It tells me you still have hope. Relationship Coaching or Counselling could be the answer.
But maybe you also have doubt about whether I can help you get through this problem.
There is one sure way to find out.
I invite you to get in touch with me today to organise your ‘first step conversation‘.
It’s free, there’s no obligation, and it’s as simple as choosing your day and time on the calendar to have a direct, one-on-one conversation with me.
Your Future, Your Story
Imagine yourself 12 months from today. Nothing has changed and your relationship problems are exactly what they were 12 months ago.
Are you truly happy with this?
I imagine not.
Now, take a journey in your mind to a place where communication is open and honest in your relationship. Where fun and laughter are the norm and not the exception.
Where you are once again comfortable and at home in each other’s company and you are able to share your thoughts and feelings, knowing they will be listened to and truly heard.
This needn’t be just a fantasy. That place is attainable. And it’s something that you have the power to create.
But you must take the first step.
Are you ready to make this happen?
Free 20-Minute First-Step Conversation
Your private, 20-minute call gives you the opportunity to:
- Share your experience with a compassionate, non-judgemental professional
- Receive feedback from a skilled coach, with no obligation (or pressure) to book a session
- Learn about the coaching or counselling process you can expect, should you decide to let me help you
- Ask any questions you have about your relationship or the process
You’ve put a lot in to your relationship and it’s time to begin reaping the rewards. Click the button below to book your free, no-obligation call with me today.
